When People Let You Down

Disappointment feels like a heavy rock sinking to the bottom of my spirit—especially when others disappoint or deceive me. Often I ignore my disappointment, shut it in a box and hope the lid holds. Sometimes I gloss it over with a quick, “People will let you down, but God never will.” True, but does this really help me process the hurt?

One morning, I poured out my sadness, anger and disappointment to God about a close relationship. As the tears slipped down my face, I begged for an answer:

What do I do with this? Show me. I’ll do it because what I’ve been doing is not working.

In my spirit, Jesus said, “Grieve.”

Really? I questioned. I remembered that Jesus knew disappointment—Peter’s denial, Judas’ betrayal and the disciples falling asleep during his anguish before his crucifixion (see Matthew 26). Jesus understood my pain.

So I cried, feeling every ounce of the disappointment. I told God all the things I wished were different, all the things I thought this person had done wrong, and what I wished this person would change.

After the winds of grief subsided, I was done. Grieving was the bridge I had to cross to move beyond the disappointment. On the other side, I could embrace the relationship for what it was, not what it wasn’t.

Only after we’ve allowed ourselves to grieve will we know how to respond in the way God wants. We may need to talk to the person who disappointed us or get godly counsel. We may need healthy boundaries or to just let it go.

Once we’ve completed those steps, the words “People will let you down, but God never will” will be comforting, not empty.

By Melanie Chitwood

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Belittled

This is definitely not mine. I got this from my devotional plan and posted it here. First, because it was like the words totally came out from my heart. And second is because I believe that im not the only one who needed to be reminded of this. So here it is. 😊

Trapped like a firefly in a mason jar. Stifled, I peered out, watching others’ dreams, hopes and joys twinkle and fly by my stagnant ones. My own desires sat dusty in my valley of pain. Extinguished. Exhausted. Expectant no longer.

“I’m so sorry your dreams are dashed,” my friend offered. “I wish I had known sooner how painful this disappointment has been. It would been an honor to walk it out with you.”

Silenced by self-doubt. Belittled by unworthiness. I diminished my pain, fearing it insignificant. In the process I belittled God’s care about my pain. Healing had been offered, yet I walked away, thinking it not worth his trouble. We journeyed back to another time when pain was acknowledged, not tucked in a dark corner. Then she turned to the Lord, who administered healing from the grief of empty arms and empty cribs.

My friend took my hand again and we journeyed forward. “Don’t belittle your grief. Your pain is genuine. This valley is real. You must acknowledge the Lord is near and accept his help to get out.”

My friend granted me permission to feel my ache and loss. Drastically different than her own, yet no less honest. In that moment I realized I’d held my pain at a distance. Yet truth resonated in her words. No one loves us or offers healing like God does. Perhaps it is time to acknowledge the pain, like Job did in Job 7:11. To become aware of the Lord’s care—an “always there” presence. No matter what other voices have said, your pain is valid. God cares deeply and longs to heal you. No pain is too great … or too small. Often we just need someone to remind us that God longs to remove the lid on our mason jar and fly next to us, out of the valley.

By Samantha Reed

Track 30th: Hide Your Love Away

Royal Priesthood

(Part 1: Broken Strings: https://1peter2verse9.wordpress.com/2015/02/21/track-30th-broken-strings/)

Part 2: Hide Your Love Away

 

I don’t know your name yet
I’ve never really seen your face…

Nasubukan mo na bang pumila sa MRT? Sa sakayan ng jeep? Sa registrar pag magbabayad ng tuition? Mag-abang ng tawag galing sa kompanya o galing sa university na gusto mong pasukan? Maghintay na tawagin ang pangalan mo sa isang opisina o agency? Resulta ng board exam or entrance exam? Ang tagal di’ba?  Parang pag-ibig.

Oo, parang pag-ibig. Madalas ang pag-ibig, ginagawa nating instant. Nabubuhay kasi tayo sa instant na mundo, instant mami, instant print, instant picture, instant lahat. Hindi natin alam na sa pag-ibig, hindi pwede ang instant.

“Love is patient.” – 1 Cor. 13:4

Kagaya nga ng sabi namin sa last blog namin, iba pa rin kapag satisfied ka kay Jesus. Kung satisfied tayo kay Jesus, di tayo masyadong maghahanap ng ka-relationship. All other relationships…

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Track 30th: Broken Strings

Royal Priesthood

“..let me hold you for the last time
It’s the last chance to feel again.”

Gabi gabi ka na lang umiiyak. Di makatulog. Di makakain. Nakakulong sa kwarto. Ilang rolyo na ng tissue yung nagamit mo sa kakaiyak. Tulala sa klase. Kahit saan ka tumingin nakikita mo siya, naaalala. Nagbobonding kayong magkakaibigan pero di ka daw nila maramdaman. Nagddrawing ka na rin ng magkahiwalay na puso or puso na may pana sa notebook gamit yung black, red at blue na ballpen mo. Kahit luma na yung FLAMES sinubukan mo pa rin malay mo dun magwork. Tapos yung mga status mo sa Facebook palaging may hashtag na #WalangForever. Tinanong ka ng friends mo, “Friend, ano ba talaga nangyari?” Ang sagot mo, “Kasi sabi nya…. There was never an us.”

Ouch! Pero teka nga lang, bakit ka nga ba napunta sa sitwasyon na yan?

“Nagmahal ako. May mali ba dun?”

Wala naman…

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Rise

Have you ever felt like you have failed God a thousand or million times and you seem to be afraid of doing anything because you think you’ll fail anyway? Or have you ever experienced being paralyzed in fear because of so many lies that are entering in your mind and you are just entertaining them one by one? Or have you ever felt that you do not deserve to receive great tasks because you know you’re such a failure? Or have you experienced crying out to God all night and all you can ever say is “God, I don’t know what to do anymore”?

If I am to answer these questions, the answer is a big YES.

When I told my mentor that I did a lot of failures in the past and I don’t know if I can do what God wants me to do, she just asked me one question: “Anshe, sino ba ang hindi na-fail si God?” And then she said, all of us, at some point of our lives, fail God. We are not perfect and God doesn’t expect us to become one. That is why there is such thing called as God’s grace. And then she reminded me of this verse:

For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again. – Proverbs 24:16a

I can call this season as my “rising” stage of my life. Yes, 2013 was a very tough year for me. As I underwent Praying and Fasting this year, God just impressed to me that this year will be a big year for me and a year of stepping out in faith, stepping out of the boat, and walking on water (I meant figuratively of course). And I can see how God puts the pieces of my life into place.

It’s just astonishing how God chooses His disciples and the people who will be a part of advancing His kingdom. Even in the bible, He did not choose someone because of the skills, talents, and success of a person. But He looked at the heart because unlike men who look at the outward appearance, He looks at the heart. And He always chooses people who seem to be “undeserving” or “sinners” to carry out His marvelous plan.

It’s not about us anyway. It was, is, and always will be about Jesus. We live and breathe to give praise, worship and glory to His Name.  We are the clay and He is the potter.

Now that I understand more of His grace (lifetime is not enough to completely comprehend and grasp it), I am more eager to obey Him, no matter what the cost is. Because He said to me,

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Therefore, like Paul, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

Breaking For A Reason

There is a season for everything under heaven. A time to laugh and a time to weep. We may have moments of laughter and joy, but we can also have time of weeping. But despite all these things. God is still good and He is still God over our lives. He is in control of everything even when things are chaotic.

When we break things, it is because of our clumsiness but when God does the breaking, He has a great purpose. God breaks us in order to use us in a way that is beyond our imagination and expectation. He breaks us first before He does something amazing and unfathomable things in our lives.

Yes, we can be broken. But we can use this brokenness to bring glory to God. This brokenness is just a preparation for greater things. And we should be expectant of that. Continue to worship God in the midst of all the trials and adversities. Our tears are made to worship Him. Even if all else fails, His love and promises will never fail.

None But Jesus

In the quiet
In the stillness
I know that You are God
In the secret of Your presence
I know there I am restored
When You call i won’t refuse
Each new day again I’ll choose

There is no one else for me
None but Jesus
Crucified to set me free
Now I live to bring Him praise

In the chaos in confusion
I know You’re sovereign still
In the moment of my weakness
You give me grace to do Your will
When You call I won’t delay
This my song through all my days

All my delight is in You Lord
All of my hope
All of my strength
All my delight is in You Lord
Forever more

Receive then Release

I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he shall be given over to the Lord. – Hannah (1 Samuel 1:27)

Hannah named her son Samuel which means ‘Because I asked the Lord for him‘. She prayed for this child for how many years since the time she got married to Elkanah. But right after Samuel got weaned, Hannah dedicated her child to God and brought him to Eli (high priest) to be God’s servant in the temple.

It’s just amazing to learn how quickly she made her decision to release her son, the one that she prayed earnestly. She was able to do it because she knows that her son was given by God and she needs to release him when God told her so. 

Just like Hannah, we all have one thing that we are earnestly praying for. It might be a provision, material thing, success, relationship.. whatever this might be, we always need to embrace the truth that it is God who answers our prayers. It comes from him, it is for him, therefore, we should be willing to give it back to Him.

Only God could help us do this, to understand that we are to hold our precious gift loosely, open-palmed, so that in God’s time when he received it back from us, He would not have to pry away our fingers.

The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised. – Job 1:21

Good and Right

Asa did what was good and right in the eyes of the Lord his God. He removed the foreign altars and the high places, smashed the sacred stones and cut down the Asherah poles. He commanded Judah to seek the Lord, the God of their ancestors, and to obey his laws and commands. He removed the high places and incense altars in every town in Judah, and the kingdom was at peace under him. He built up the fortified cities of Judah, since the land was at peace. No one was at war with him during those years, for the Lord gave him rest. – 2 Chronicles 14:2-6

Like Asa, we can decide if we will do what is GOOD and RIGHT in the eyes of God. But I know that this is a challenge for us to be remembered as good and godly woman. But despite of all our insecurities, failures, and fears, God chose us to be involved in advancing His kingdom. We certainly don’t deserve it, but Jesus did it for us. Because we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do (Eph.2:10).

Let me share these truths about being good and right:

  • Always depend on God and not on ourselves. Ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom.
  • Remove false gods, wrong priorities, and selfish desires.
  • Build up your faith by reading the bible, obeying it, and sharing the Word of God to others.
  • Do everything to please God and not men.
  • Obey and be submissive to our parents, leaders, and God-given authorities (but always in a biblical context).

Remember that whatever we do, work it with all our heart. It is Jesus Christ we are serving.